Transforming Love Relationships
through Enneagram
"I have been working on Enneagram for 40 years. I don't know there's any better psychological system today that helps us manage our relationships better than Enneagram. When we understand our own Enneagram style, it helps us to be more skilled, more open-hearted in our relationships. When we understand other people's Enneagram styles, we know how to address their needs and concerns," says Peter O'Hanrahan.
According to Dr Sue Johnson, 70%-80% of couples are stuck in a predictable dance where one partner is the pursuer and one partner is the withdrawer. The more the pursuer pursues, the more the withdrawer withdraws. To make progress, couples need to understand that the pattern is their enemy not their partner; they have to give up their unproductive way of interaction and learn a new way of connection.
The enneagram is a powerful method to understand ourselves and the people in our lives. Since being developed as a psychological system in California in the 1970’s, it’s now used by people all over the world to create better relationships at home and at work. This system of nine personality types is used in families, organizations, psychotherapy and coaching work to develop emotional intelligence and more effective communication.
"We get together on the basis of our similarities; we grow on the basis of our differences" --- Virginia Satir
Are you considering breaking up or getting a divorce but do not know if ending the relationship is the right decision for you?
Discernment counselling can help you clarifying your objectives and options, and the potential outcome of these options.
It is most helpful for mixed agenda couples, ie one partner wants to stay and the other wants to go. It is also helpful for couples who are at a crossroad, confused and uncertain what is a right decision for them.
The goal of discernment counselling is not to resolve relationship issues or concerns but to determine whether problems can be resolved and help couples make a decision with clarity and understanding of the issues they are facing.
The damage of infidelity to relationship can be terminal because trust is broken. But the crisis can serve as a “Danger-Opportunity” or wake-up call for couples to find out what is missing or not working in their relationship, what is their longing and desire, and the growths that need to happen for both individuals in order to have a joyful and fulfilling relationship.