LOVE SENSE presents practical, accessible advice on building more intimacy, safety, and trust; coping with separation distress, loss, and forgiveness; and strengthening your safe-haven relationship to ensure a lifetime of love. It will change the way you think about love.
HOLD ME TIGHT offers a revolutionary new way to see and shape love relationships. The stories, new ideas and exercises offered in the book are based on the new science of love and the wisdom of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT), an effective new model developed by Dr. Johnson.
THE NEW RULES OF MARRIAGE shows couples how to master the new rules of twenty-first-century marriage by offering them a set of effective tools with which they can create the truly intimate relationship that they desire and deserve.
FIERCE INTIMACY (Audiobook) offers a revolutionary way of living in connection—one that allows you to cherish your partner, yourself, and your relationship in equal measure. What does it take for couples to sustain love? How can you deepen your relationship even when you and your partner disagree, fight, or let each other down? “Intimacy isn’t something you have. It’s something you do,” teaches Terry Real. “It’s a minute-by-minute practice of connecting to others through empathy, vulnerability, and accountability.”
The Art of Loving by Dr Eric Fromm
The powerful metaphor that Fromm offers is of love as an art. If love is an art, he says that “it requires knowledge and effort” (page 1). No one can become a master at anything overnight. Even if a person carries within himself the promise and talent of a master, he must still persevere through many thousands of hours of learning and practice to demonstrate the skill. Only after this mastery, will he find the practice deeply satisfying and even easy.
In short, Erich Fromm believes that love is not a noun or object, but a verb or practice. How you practice love with those around you depends on your approach and understanding of the existential problems of your life and, at the same time, determines the wholeness you will experience as a human being. In a more practical sense, reading The Art of Loving can give you tools to help you get out of the rut of disappointment and pain that your previous approach to love has kept you in. Changing your game may be just what you need!
Books by Dr Harville Hendrix & Dr Helen Lakelly Hunt
Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of people experience more satisfying relationships. Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt explain how to revive romance and remove negativity from daily interactions. This revolutionary guide combines behavioral science, depth psychology, social learning theory, Gestalt therapy, and interpersonal neuroscience to help you and your partner recapture joy, enhance closeness, and experience the reward of a deeply fulfilling relationship.
Making Marriage Simple is the go-to guide for building a strong marriage in a modern world. Harville & Helen distill everything they’ve learned about creating a successful and satisfying relationship into 10 essential truths. In each chapter, they introduce a simple truth—such as “a frustration is a wish in disguise,” “incompatibility is grounds for marriage,” or “conflict is growth trying to happen.” Then, they walk you through easy, yet effective, exercises to help you apply each truth in real life, every day.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the culmination of Dr. Gottman’s lifelong work: an overview of the concepts, behaviors, and skills that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship.
What Makes Love Last? shows readers how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate sexual and other forms of betrayal, and provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken. Dr. John Gottman explains how a couple can protect or recover its greatest gift — their love for one another.
You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For applies the Internal Family Systems (IFS) Model to the topic of intimate relationships in an engaging, understandable, and personal style. You will find this book to be an insightful exploration of how cultivating a relationship with the Self—the wise center of clarity, calmness, and compassion in each of us—creates the foundation for courageous love and resilient intimacy: the capacity to sustain and nourish a healthy intimate relationship. Self-leadership also allows us to embrace our partner’s feedback and use it to discover aspects of ourselves that seek healing.
Wired for Love is a complete insider’s guide to understanding your partner’s brain and promoting love and trust within a romantic relationship. You will learn ten scientific principles you can use to avoid triggering fear and panic in your partner, manage your partner’s emotional reactions when he or she does become upset, and recognize when your brain’s threat response is hindering your ability to act in a loving way. By learning to use simple gestures and words, you will be able to put out emotional fires and help your partner feel more safe and secure.
In The Enneagram in Love & Work, Helen Palmer presents each type’s relationship style in love and work, as well as the dynamic interactions of each type with every other type. She also provides brief descriptions of the key characteristics, subtypes and communication styles of each type, plus many vignettes. This classic is essential for anyone interested in how the Enneagram types affect relationships.
The State of Affairs What can infidelity teach us about modern relationships? What draws people outside the boundaries of commitment they worked so hard to establish? Why does sexual betrayal hurt so much? Is an affair always selfish and weak, or can it in some cases be understandable, acceptable, even an act of boldness and courage? And whether we have known this drama or not, what can we draw from the excitement of infidelity to enliven our relationships?
Mating in Captivity explores the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Esther Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Pshe demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships.
After the Affair offers proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship. Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring has found that couples can survive infidelity, provided that both partners are willing to look honestly at themselves and at each other and acquire the skills they need to help themselves through such a shattering crisis.
How Can I Forgive You helps offenders learn how to perform bold, humble, heartfelt acts of repair to earn forgiveness, such as bearing witness to the pain they caused, delivering a meaningful apology, and taking responsibility for their offense. Hurt parties will learn to release their obsessive preoccupation with the injury, accept a fair share of responsibility for what went wrong, and create opportunities for the offender to make good.
His Needs, Her Needs is designed to change the course of a marriage. Using a conversational style, Dr. Harley helps couples understand why their best intentions are not enough to prevent marital incompatibility. Couples must do more than want to meet each other’s needs–they must actually meet them! Dr. Harley describes the ten emotional needs of men and women. He helps you identify which are the most important to you and your spouse, helps you communicate them to each other, and helps you learn to meet them.
In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers describe the most common types of affairs, the reasons they begin and end, the best way to end them, and the best way to restore marriage after an affair. But most importantly, they help readers survive the entire ordeal by providing them with step-by-step guidance that minimizes suffering and offers hope for a loving and trusting marital relationship.
Book written by Dr Shirley Glass
NOT “Just Friends” is the first book to shatter popular assumptions about infidelity, including: a happy marriage is insurance against infidelity; the betrayed partner must have ignored obvious clues; and the unfaithful partner was compensating for emotional or sexual deprivation in the marriage.
Books recommended by Dr Shirley Glass
A collection of book lists recommended by Dr Shirley Glass on infidelity, marriage, love and intimacy, sex, divorce and understanding yourself.
The Good Divorce defines the good divorce and shows how couples can achieve one. Dr. Ahrons focuses on what we can learn from those divorced families that maintain family bonds and continue to meet the needs of their children, and counteracts the myths that divorce inevitably turns adults into bitter enemies, results in damaged children and broken homes, and rips apart the fabric of society.